Blinded by Love

Love is one of those tiny but big words. It’s been taken twisted and jaded by society as another form of control.

Even when you google “what is love?” this is the first thing that comes up: “Love is a set of emotions and behaviors characterized by intimacy, passion, and commitment. It involves care, closeness, protectiveness, attraction, affection, and trust. Love can vary in intensity and can change over time” – Everything just so geared to this idea the only way you can experience love is through a romantic and or sexual connection. This is what I like to call “blinded by love”

In 2021 I had my “major” awakening (you have many awakenings but that will be for another post), and during that time I had many illusions fall away, the societal version of love is one of those things that fell away. This falsified version of love has filled our tv screens and minds since the moment we were born, especially the Disney generation, it was in our face all the time. Then we started learning what divorce was and bam, our hearts broke before we even understood what a broken heart was. If love is the most special thing…. why would people get divorced and break up? Because the illusion of fake love fell away and they didn’t know how to actually and truly just unconditionally love one another, problems arise, they can’t cope, and one of them inevitably runs. It’s a system set to fail most people. Who actually wants to be taken away and locked away in a tower? No one… the idea is to be “taken away to a place where you belong” – It doesn’t always need to be a romantic partner you have that connection with. Love is actually this pure, innocent, happy, shoot for the moon, world series kind of stuff, but I’ve had that connection with very close friends over the years and it doesn’t always need to necessarily need to become this possessive attachment to this idea of “I think I’m in love” – Anything and I mean ANYTHING you become obsessive with to the point of it distracting you from yourself and your own journey, is created and manufactured by the suits to do exactly that. Keep you distracted. Most the time when you are chasing “Movie Love” you are chasing this idea of something, you aren’t even chasing a real thing. The most intense relationship of love you are going to have is with yourself, you can’t chase something and think you are going to catch it if you haven’t been taking breaks to have a moment to love YOURSELF. No one wants to be smothered by another person’s love, we can all feel the desperation of it. Then you inevitably lose this fake thing, because no one wants fake.

Every single person I know who had been desperately looking for a relationship would get painfully rejected by almost every person they pursued, it wasn’t until they stop LOOKING for love OUTSIDE of themselves and found REAL love within, that all of a sudden a perfect person pops out of the woodworks. Why does that happen? Because people love seeing someone in love with themselves, there is nothing more authentic that someone who actually understands the meaning of UNCONDITIONAL LOVE and gives that love TO THEMSELVES FIRST. The person who loves themselves becomes a magnet for other people, they start to want more for themselves and in term make the people around them want more for themselves. So of course, they are going to have people believe you need to CHASE that high hidden inside someone else instead of letting you know its hidden inside of you all along. Disney told us we couldn’t be a REAL princess until we got married. I have always called bullshit on that. You have all this love inside of you and many people just waste on people who won’t even match their energy. That’s some wounded feminine energy right there (from everyone no societal gender or lack there of is excluded from the wounded societal feminine energy)

You don’t even need to be monogamous, that’s genuinely not even natural for most humans. They made us hate the idea of any emotion other than “fake love” so people close themselves off from any other connection because you can only feel that fake love for one person, and if you feel ANYTHING with another person, you are cheating. Many partners start to resent the best friend because of this issue, it becomes EXTREMELY isolating and causes extreme issues down the road in most relationships. & What is this terrible feeling that people are trying to avoid so desperately they would rather make their partner miserable? Jealousy. Jealousy is the reason why most people stay in subpar and borderline unhappy monogamous relationships – because we were only taught CONDITIONAL LOVE. Which is inevitably is the love we give ourselves, and then often give others, which leaves everyone feeling a little unfilled. Most people who I know that are awakened and live with an open-heart chakra and mainly all poly to a CERTAIN extent, because a lot of them have learned that you can get pieces of your heart filled from many locations and as long as you love yourself and others unconditionally, making connections with someone isn’t going to ruin a connection you already have with another. Now I’m only using this as an example as to WHY so many people move into a more unconditional way of loving and having relationships. Some people genuinely love and enjoy having only one partner they are sexually involved with while still thriving and needing to have many friends and close connections to other souls, but this whole topic I could get into falls into a category involving sex and the illusions around that, and we will leave that one for another day.

So what is conditional love? It is Love with conditions. With conditions comes expectations, fear of judgement, fear of losing it, it is essentially fear based love. You get and receive the love from this person as long as all the needs and conditions are being met. Many of us have experienced this with relationships, friendships, parents and partners of all sorts. It is the love of the societal world, it is the falsified version of love, this is why the jealousy is also so strong. There is that fear that the person they are with will find someone who is willing to love them unconditionally, and we can’t have that happening, so then the jealousy and panic sets in, which causes more chaos than its actually worth. Children grow up and cut off their parents, Marriages end, Friendships explode, Business partnerships crumble. It almost NEVER ends well when its conditional love.

So then what’s unconditional love? Unconditional love is literally the exact opposite of conditional love, it is this judgement free, free to be who you are, free to love how you want to love, just open and free and all around joyous experience. It’s those friendships where it doesn’t matter how long it’s been since you have talked, its like no time has passed. That’s an unconditional love connection. This is the love you should be giving to yourself and then giving to others, but that is when you are going to really start to experience all of these happy and bright emotions you have always dreamed of. So many people tell me their ultimate goal is happiness, but I truly believe it should be understanding and trying to live in a timeline where unconditional love is the only goal, because from that one goal explodes so many other amazingly beautiful goals.

The rose coloured glasses are very real, the jaded glass is also very real, these expressions were put into our lives for us to eventually notice that the love we were all looking for has been fake love this entire love. No one wants the possessive person, we wanting someone who will fight for our honor and our love, but we don’t want the jealous possessive person, and no one wants to be smothered. This is why a lot of us have been victim of being called clingy, because we want this conditional love from someone and we don’t even know what their conditions are, and that freaks a person out a little bit.

There is shadow work for this article if you so choose to do it:

When have you loved someone conditionally?

When have you been loved conditionally?

How do you think it would feel to be loved unconditionally?

Do you currently love anyone or anything unconditionally?

How does that feel to you?

Has your perspective on your personal views of love changed or stayed the same after reading this?

- Eevee